Today is my 1st month anniversary in India!
And almost 3 months since I left Brazil.
In a way, moving to another country is like starting a new relationship. Sometimes you’ll love it; sometimes you’ll hate it. Some days will be easy, and some days will be really hard and challenge you in ways you couldn’t imagine. Accept that there will be hard days, and that there’s always a tomorrow on the horizon. Be patient. And, like in all relationships…you’ll enjoy it as much as you allow yourself to. If you get into this with a narrow mind and a closed heart, and keep comparing it to your previous relationship – or country – you will not allow yourself to enjoy all the wonders it may offer you. Instead, if you dive into this with a really open mind and heart, you’ll fill your world with new colors, sounds and different perspectives about life. It’s like falling in love. If you do it right, in the end you might have a nice, peaceful and long lasting relationship. But if you don’t get deeply into it, and if you don’t try to overcome its difficulties and hard moments, it will be like one of those bad break ups, with scars that will might stay with you forever.
And about India…
As a quote from the movie The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel,
“Can there be anywhere else in the world that is such an assault on the senses? Those who know the country of old just go about their business. But nothing can prepare the uninitiated for this riot of noise and color. For the heat, the motion; the perpetual teeming crowds. Initially you’re overwhelmed. But gradually you realize it’s like a wave. Resist, and you’ll be knocked over. Dive into it, and you’ll swim out the other side.”
This is exactly it. India is intense. It enhances your life. The next step after 5D movie theatres. Food has more taste, noises are more intense, everything is more colorful and a joy to see, scents are different.
And it’s also a deep dive into reality. It’s like a punch in the stomach. It awakes you, and suddenly you are obliged to face the reality that so many of us try so hard not to see in the world. After all, “living is easier with eyes closed”.
Here, there’s no escape to it. You will face reality in a way that no TV with billions of colors will ever show you. Human instincts at their most. If you don’t know how to, here you will have to learn to stand up for yourself…so don’t be afraid, and don’t hide. Enjoy it, because it will get you stronger. And strong is good.
India is like waking up from the Matrix, it’s facing the real world and not any kind of utopia that many people wish to live in…because in the end, there is NO perfection anywhere. Perfection is an illusion. And that’s just the beauty about the world…because perfect things are just TOO boring. Accept that there is no perfection. In anyone, anywhere. Haven’t you ever met anyone too perfect, in a way that you don’t even find them interesting anymore? Because perfection is too predictable…and the beauty of life is within the surprises, the unexpected, the new and the exciting…the moments that make you feel alive.
And that’s just the thing about life.
I decided to come to India because I was tired. I was tired of the same old routine, of having nothing new, of feeling numb…like a sad bird in a cage desperate to fly.
And fly I did. In fact, I flew all the way across the world.
And this almost crazy act turned out to be exactly what I needed…if before I was numb, almost sleepy, now it’s fair to say I have never felt more alive…
In a way that only those who already came here will understand.
India is intense. You either love it or hate it. Nowhere in between.
Guess what my answer is?